It really is ok to feel angry. It is a natural human emotion and is as valid as all the others. When you feel angry, you are basically responding to some kind of threat and it is a way that your body and mind is trying to deal with it. This is nothing to be ashamed of – it is there for a reason and it provides us and others with useful information about the current state of our life and emotions. The key is to make your anger work for you, not against you, and it is all about expressing it appropriately in a given situation. Continue reading

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A bad break-up


Well, for a start, let’s get real: there is no such thing as a “good” one.  Even if it is for the best  –  it is never nice and easy.

You have had a relationship. You have had hopes. You have lost a companion, a lover, a reason for living. Often, you have also suffered financially, your mutual friends may no longer be there, and you may have to find somewhere else to live.  Life does not stop, and much as people around you will empathise and be willing to support you for a while, some will get bored with your wining and moping about. It is your stuff, not theirs, and at the end of the day, you are the one left to deal with it.

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Which therapy?


There are many schools of therapy out there, and the key point is that not every type of therapy will suit every client. Sometimes, a therapist is so attached to their chosen mode of practice that they will subconsciously attempt to make the client fit into the therapy, as opposed to tailoring the therapy to fit the client.

You will know soon enough if something is the right solution for you – simply trust your instincts and don’t be afraid to shop around. What can be truly tragic is when a client has a bad experience with one therapist (remember, there are more and less competent practitioners out there, just like in every other profession) and it stops them from seeking help in the future. Don’t let this happen to you: as well as many counselling approaches there are many different personalities out there too and you may not necessarily take to one counsellor as much as you will to another.

Here is a little help with understanding what may be involved when you are making your choices: Continue reading

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